New York City is a place that takes pride in being full of resilient, influential and brave individuals. There’s even a famous page called Humans of New York that writes about various New Yorker stories. It’s meant to celebrate The Big Apple’s diverse inhabitants.
The page uses photographs of individuals and at the bottom is their story. Overall, the page sends out positive messages or even inspirational ones. It really makes you wish you were living in New York. But sometimes, not everyone featured is fit for commendation.
One such New Yorker cowardly shared a dilemma he’s experiencing online. What’s his dilemma you ask? Well, this guy fully admitted that he just can’t get past the fact that his girlfriend is overweight. This guy decided to use this page, that’s overall positive, as an advice page. So what did he write exactly?
“At first I told myself I could get past it. I said, ‘Let’s just see how it goes…’ We had excellent dates. Everything else about her was exactly what I wanted. I didn’t want to ruin something good for a little reason…”
He continued, writing, “But it’s been 1.5 years. And I feel horrible, but I just can’t get past it…I feel like a bad person for being bothered by it. I can’t bring myself to tell her.”
The user also added that the two are going to couple’s therapy next week but he still doesn’t think that he’d be able to bring it up. So he’s asking the social media world, “Is there any right way to ask?”
Typically, those who post on Humans of New York show their faces. But this guy decided to crop out his photo, in order to shield him from public scrutiny. Probably smart, considering most of the reactions weren’t very sympathetic towards this man.
The Facebook comments came pouring in and people, for the most part, were just bashing this conflicted boyfriend. One person wrote, “No. You are the one with the problem, not her. Do her a favour and end it.”
Another person wrote, “If you’re concerned about her health, approach it from that angle. If you’re concerned about her appearance, you should probably just stay single.”
Someone else decided to give the guy some constructive advice, and it totally made sense. They wrote, “Break up with her now. Don’t wait. She deserves someone who loves all of her, and you need to be with someone your type…”
Then there was one user who put herself in the girl’s position, saying that she’d hope her spouse WOULD ask her the dreaded question. Saying that not trying to be healthy and losing weight is disrespectful to her body and to her spouse. What do you guys think?